Some people do think it is morally wrong to have sexual intercourse before marriage. I will not go into the historical details from which this tradition derives, but want to point out that in the olden times women were considered ready for wedding (and bedding) after their first flowering. I don’t say that’s a good thing, but I underline that the whole no-sex-before-marriage thing was a different one back when the whole business started, because before the marriage women were usually 12, and not 22 (like today).
Anyway, it has religious roots, and is a religious thing. And because the Church is more and more seen as a rather immoral institution in the public, they can’t really work with ethical arguments anymore. So they try to make up new reasons, medical ones, for example.
The current Pope was the first to announce that wearing condoms actually increases the chances of getting AIDS – he did that last year at a press conference in Africa. I was shocked and outraged, and still hold that he should be imprisoned for that statement.
The health care reform in the US (which President Obama signed recently) includes $250 million for abstinence-focused education. The reason for this is that “sex before marriage is likely to have harmful psychological and physical effects” (yes, that is actually a quote).
Now, there are two things nearly everybody likes – one of them is pizza. If one wants to avoid that his children become obese and die of arteriosclerosis with 30, one will have to teach them why eating too much pizza can be bad, and why a bit of pizza now and then will most probably not have adverse side effects – as crossing the street responsibly will most probably not get you killed (unless you live in Moscow, but that’s another story entirely).
It’s all about responsible behavior, about common-sense, about judicious assessments of situations. Telling children they mustn’t eat pizza (“because I say so, and I am your father!”) might work for some, but it clearly won’t work for the majority, and that is very well known.
The same applies to the second thing most people enjoy very much – sex. It’s a rather basic human thing, we’re more or less built to enjoy it. Having sex in a responsible way – and that, fortunately, does neither say something about the quality nor quantity of sex – has extremely little chances of causing physical harm. But the side-effects can be severe, if certain measures (CONDOMS!!) are ignored.
Let’s take another look at the abstinence programmes: “Abstinence from sexual activity is the only certain way to avoid out-of-wedlock pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and other associated health problems”.
Yes! That is entirely true. Not crossing streets will clearly reduce the chances of getting overrun by a car – from 0.0004% to 0.0000%. Is that tiny little bit of risk reduction worth staying at home all the time?
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